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dicea @ 3:12pm: Here come the drums here come the drums.
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swankivy, posting in asexuality @ 11:42pm: Famous as Michael Jackson
Meh, didn't think this was coming out yet but. . . .

I'm as famous as Michael Jackson.

Yup. I'm mentioned in an article with Michael Jackson.

Killer.

dicea @ 10:06pm: Conversation of a Friday
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cyanideidrank, posting in asexuality @ 11:20pm: so ive just been looking around on here. and after reading some of your stories, i now feel not so weird about this whole thing. i thought their was something wrong with me. All my life i have never had any interest in having sex, and i thought that was because i wasn't ready or found the right person.
My question to whoever reads this, have you told people about being asexual and have people laughed at you when you tld them?

dicea @ 1:47pm: August second, tree dark, Æ Royal Camp
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dicea @ 11:32pm: A night at the show, or "We hold these truths to be self evident" A photo essay
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dicea @ 10:04pm: Life is good.
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erikamoen @ 4:30pm: Tentacle Cast!
Hey dudes, I just finished up drawing all over Allan Miller's cast!


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Whatta champ! Almost makes it worthwhile gettin' yer hand all busted up, huh?

dicea @ 7:25pm: Voice Post
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dicea @ 4:19pm: Dear Sad Little Boy,
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humanvirtue, posting in asexuality @ 8:30pm: Oh, look, another rant
I know there's a lot of these on here but I just need to get this out somewhere people will understand what I'm saying.

( backstory, you can skip it if you want )...He uttered this: "I think if I lost my penis I would just kill myself, because I wouldn't have anything to live for anymore."

I was shocked and disgusted to hear him say this. I can't believe a person can feel this way. How can it be that if you can't stick your penis into something, you have nothing to live for? What kind of existance is that? Why even be alive in the first place, if that's all you live for? I can't even fathom it. I tried to think about it in other ways, like what if I couldn't walk, or see, or hear, and still I couldn't imagine that any of these ailments would cause me to view life as meaningless.

And now, I feel utterly disgusted with myself for ever sleeping with him. I feel used and lied to. I feel as though everytime he said he loved me, what he was really saying is "I love having sex with you," which is not the same at all. I still have to stay with him until the 20th, too, and I don't know how I'm going to do this. Am I overreacting? I don't know, but I can't help feeling this way, and I can't help but be even more put off by men than I was before, which I don't like, because I assume not all men are sex-crazed and I don't want to close myself off from future potential friendships just because someone happens to have a penis.

I just needed to get this out. If you read it, thank you.

bakestondone @ 11:21am: Actual Conversation This Morning While Snuggeling
"You know I still have that pile of AE Red Wool I don't know what to do with. I look HORRIBLE in red." Says Katie.
"Everyone looks horrible in AEthelmearc Red....accept Dorinda." Says Dicea lazily.\
"Well then, I'm gonna have to make Dorinda something." Says Katie with amusement.

angel_of_olore, posting in asexuality @ 5:29am: Curiosity Post: Fascination with Sexual Culture
I've been a member here for a while and have commented on several posts, but I finally have a burning question that has prompted me to actually post. One thing I love about the community here is that most everyone is willing to share their experiences and perspectives, so I'd love to hear your take on this.

I've noticed in other people's posts that many of you dislike sexual things not directly pertaining to you: sex in books and movies, conversations about sex among friends, sex jokes, and so on. I identify as biromantic asexual, but my own perception of sex in the world around me is just the opposite: I find it fascinating.

I have zero interest in personally having sex. None. But sex itself, and the effects of sex on society, are very interesting. Fetishes, philias, sexual humor, the tendency of people to either exaggerate or underplay their personal sexual experience, sex work, pornography, erotica... I view all of it with a detached, but still keen, fascination. I actually collect sex accessories and fetish erotica, and before the Great Hard Drive Crash of '08, I had an extensive collection of pornography, though it is worthy of note that hardly any of it was what one would consider "standard" porn. All of it had something specific about it that intrigued me, an interesting or artistic style of presentation, for instance, or an unusual fetish.

I'm sure that on some level it just seems like I'm repressed, but I trust the people here to understand that my interest is entirely scholarly. Once I am added to the equation, thoughts of such things turn from fascinating to repulsive in my mind. It's an interest that is reserved for observation.

What I'm curious about is to what degree you all have academic interest in sex. I strongly doubt that I'm completely alone in collecting elements of sexual culture as others collect things representing Spanish or Hindu or popular culture. At what point, for those of you who do have an intellectual draw to sexual topics, do they become uncomfortable or disturbing?

erikamoen @ 1:07am: DAR! Torked
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This is what I did to myself last week. Man, it sucked so hard.

Today's the final day to get a free pack of stickers with any order from my store. Juuuuuuuust sayin'.

Portland Zine Symposium is in ten days, July 24 - 26th. Free admission! Say hi to me?

Just like everyone else, I'm afraid I've fallen prey to Twitter's 140 character clutches, which is why the ol' LJ is so quiet. I know, I know. I'm sorry.

Next week: Thrilling Conclusion to my Vibrator Series!


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lexxxxxii, posting in asexuality @ 3:02am: "Love without sex? LOLWUT?!"
Hey, long time lurker here. While I'm kind of saddened that my first post here isn't exactly a happy one-- right now, I just really need to vent to people I know will understand. Maybe I'll post a coherent ntroduction later.

The thing is, generally I'm pretty cool with people asking me about my asexuality. I have no problem explaining it to people or answering their questions, because I can understand their curiousity. I'm even pretty cool with those people - you know the sort: the ones that act like they know you better than you know yourself, or the ones with the whole "I've never heard of it, therefore it can't possibly exist!" attitude - because I like to feel - however idealistic and ridiculously optimistic it may be - that in talking calmly and maturely about it with them, maybe it'll help them understand a little more. There's a lot of misconceptions and negativity out there without me adding to the problem by being defensive or argumentative, after all. But I digress.

Today a guy IM'd me through OkCupid, which is a site I signed up to for the tests it has, and also as a social networking site to make friends. However, since the site is primarily for dating, I added some extra clarification in my profile, in which I stated that I wasn't there looking for a relationship, a little about asexuality, and also-- since the typical selection limitations of websites like these forced me into picking 'bisexual'-- I explained a bit about being biromantic, just so that I couldn't be accused of lying or 'wasting anyone's time', or whatever.

Now, I've had my fair share of inquisitive people in my time on that site, from the genuinely curious all the way upto the ignorant asswipes, but I can safely say I've never had anybody like this guy before. His argument wasn't focused on my asexuality so much as it was my romantic attraction, and if love can truly exist without sex. He seemed to be suggesting that for romantic, emotional attraction to exist, there must be at least some element of sexuality in it, otherwise it would be no different to the kind of relationship I'd have with my friends or my mother. Which, as you can imagine, I took serious issue with. I actually surprised myself with how much this wound me up.

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...At which point I had to stop talking to him, because smoke was about to pour out of my ears. I think the thing that annoys me most is that - unlike all the others who said I must feel something I didn't - he was telling me I don't feel something I know I do, if that makes sense. Urgh. Just, please someone, cheer me up a little? This is getting me down way more than it has any right to. :(

dicea @ 6:40pm: Pride
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dicea @ 6:07pm: an update -- Image Heavy
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dicea @ 8:53pm: Sounds so familiar... same song, new again
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lvbtsandrzrlns, posting in asexuality @ 9:00pm: I have read entries in this community for a long time, so I figured it is about time that I post one.

Hi. My name is Amber. I am a nineteen year old English major. I realised I was asexual at about fifteen, but perhaps we should go a little further back than that.

( Come with us now on a journey through time and space. )

I know that intro posts are generally boring, so I tried not too make it too long. I just feel like I should say a hello before I dive headfirst into the community.

So, hello. :)

dicea @ 9:15am: The Nightmare Critic
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dicea @ 8:24am: Sometimes I think people are so busy trying to convince others that they've got something...
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dicea @ 11:36am: Note to self
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swankivy, posting in asexuality @ 12:49am: Ace-friendly petition
Hey guys,

Some of you may have seen my "Letters to an Asexual" video series on YouTube. In three of the four so far, I've featured letters sent through OKCupid, which is primarily a dating site. Due to their failure to offer an "asexual" (or even "none of the above") option, I'm listed as bisexual on the site. In my most recent installment, Letters to an Asexual #4, some moron nailed me for choosing "bisexual" because he insisted heterosexual is the default, and if I'm not gay in any way, I should just put "hetero." (Back when it happened, I complained to you people about it in this post. You might remember.)

Anyway, I'm sure you can imagine I had a problem with that, but that's beside the point (though I invite you to check out the video if you haven't already!). The main point of this post is that if OKCupid (and other social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook) DID acknowledge our existence by letting us have a drop-down box choice, I wouldn't get in this kind of pickle. Furthermore, a big part of being accepted and spreading awareness about our orientation is getting our existence acknowledged by the bigwigs.

Apparently, pansexuals have the same issue we do. Yesterday, someone I didn't know came across my YouTube videos and sent me a message asking me to sign his online petition, and the purpose of the petition was to get social networking sites to add "asexual" and "pansexual" as choices. The original petition link he sent me had a few errors and some muddy language, though, so I helped him rewrite it, and now the new version of it is available. I promised him I'd pass the petition on to my networks, and perhaps it will be one little thing we can do to help in the march toward widespread understanding of our legitimacy. I don't know how well online petitions work, but it's always worth a shot. (This site does not display e-mail addresses, so they can't be harvested.)

Here's the link:

http://www.petitiononline.com/asm55579/petition.html

Please pass it on to non-members who support our cause as well.

ETA: Could someone who is active in the AVEN forums possibly throw this somewhere visible over there too? If you think it's a good idea? Thanks.

dicea @ 10:20pm: Seems to me...
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dicea @ 8:10pm: May I say it again?
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